And so, here it is. The moment has come to say goodbye. To soften the blow, one adds « darling. » But there is nothing gentle about it. It tears at the heart! We don’t want to see her leave for New York, our daughter. We would love to keep having her with us, always, in Versailles, safe in our family cocoon. But that would be doing her no favors. Because we are proud of her, too. She can manage on her own, she speaks English, she is independent. Independent and proud. She doesn’t need us. Parents provide the initial fuel, and the motorcar drives on alone, refuels without warning, and travels far beyond anything we had ever imagined.
On the quayside at the port of Le Havre, amid the throng of farewells, intimate snapshots from my life with my daughter come rushing back. That very first night as a newborn, when my wife, exhausted from childbirth, asked me to get back up and hold her because she wouldn’t stop crying for no apparent reason. That fussy, squawking little creature. And my wife had added, as if to encourage me: “Go on. You know what? She takes after you.” A formal introduction between us. Welcome, Pauline. And she kept right on wailing, the little mite. Helpless, I stayed up with her for hours. Most of the night, holding her tight against my chest to calm her down. And now, that scene surfaces. Heaven knows why. To no purpose. If a tear slips out, it will only make me look ridiculous among all these well-to-do families, who know how to part ways with proper dignity.
Besides, Pauline has no patience for grand emotional displays. In her mind, she is already on the other side of the Atlantic: scanning the stars in American observatories, treating patients in medical faculties, and mixing with the Roosevelts to decode the great dynasties of the East Coast. So an overly sentimental father seeing her off is the last thing she needs. Pull yourself together, won’t you? “I’ll be back, Papa!”
So I become Olivier the Tiger once more. I calculate how my daughter might—when the time comes—help foster diplomatic ties between Washington and Paris; how Pauline, skillful and gifted, could hold the doors of American high society wide open, so that French interests might finally be better defended among the Anglo-Saxons. I picture her doing in New York and Washington a bit of what I spent thirty years building in Paris: rubbing shoulders with leaders, advancing momentous affairs from the quiet shadows of private offices, overcoming resistance to human progress through an unmatched mastery of the files, and identifying and rallying capable minds to defend the Republic. I am getting ahead of myself, daydreaming! At this stage, my daughter couldn’t care less. She just wants to live life to the fullest: enjoy the weather, meet wonderful people, and gather stories to share with her loyal friends.
There is one Olivier the Tiger; there will be no “Pauline the Tiger.” It would be absurd. The mold is broken. Something new will have to be invented. Or we must wait. Pauline is twenty-one. When I was her age, Clemenceau was a distant figure. Yet my daughter, in ten days’ time, will already be rubbing shoulders with the Roosevelts.
“All right, Papa, are you going to hand me that suitcase or what? What are you daydreaming about now?” One last embrace, one last kiss. Pauline says “smack, smack” like the other youngsters her age. It translates to: “Affectionate farewell.” She walks up the gangway with a resolute, almost military stride, barely turning back as she steps aboard the ocean liner La France.
“What time is our train back to Paris?” My wife brings me back down to earth a little more. It’s just the two of us now, without Pauline. A vast emptiness. The sudden urge to talk about our other two children: Nicolas, our aviator, and Alexis, who is finishing high school.
Yet there is happiness, too, in being together—just my wife, Nathalie, and me. Alone at last, without children on the return train. It has its charm, even—and precisely—with that touch of nostalgia for the family life we once knew…


The Historian’s Corner: Departures from Le Havre and the Great Transatlantic Leap in 1926
The Quayside at Le Havre and the Departure Ritual: In the 1920s, the ocean terminal of Le Havre (on the Quai Joannès-Couvert) was the indispensable gateway to the New World. Passengers arrived directly from Paris aboard the « boat trains » (trains transatlantiques) departing from the Gare Saint-Lazare, which pulled up right alongside the boarding gangways. The departure ritual was timeless: crowds packed onto the quays, three long blasts of the foghorn reverberating through the warehouses, thousands of paper streamers snapping as the ocean liner pulled away from the pier, and an ocean of white handkerchiefs waving one final goodbye.
Aboard the France, a Society in Miniature: While posters from the Compagnie Générale Transatlantique (the French Line) championed the opulence of the first-class lounges—frequented by diplomats, industrialists, Roaring Twenties celebrities, and wealthy American tourists taking advantage of the weak franc—the liner in truth carried a strictly stratified micro-society:
- Second Class (Pauline’s class): The rising class of the interwar years. It catered to scholarship students, professors, engineers, artists, and young professionals. Less ostentatious than first class, it provided comfortable staterooms and an ideal setting for young intellectuals seeking international training.
- Third Class (Steerage): Despite the quota laws passed by the U.S. Congress in 1921 and 1924 (the Johnson-Reed Act), which drastically curbed immigration, several hundred passengers still traveled in the converted lower decks. Among them were craftsmen, laborers, and refugees or migrants from Central and Mediterranean Europe, journeying to try their luck in America.
The Gravity of Farewells Before the Era of Instant Communication: In 1926, crossing the ocean was by no means a casual pleasure trip. Even though steam turbines had cut the crossing down to under six days, leaving for the United States marked a profound rupture in family life:
- The Silence of Communications: Commercial transatlantic telephone service did not yet exist for the general public (the first regular commercial radio-telephone link between London and New York would only launch in early 1927). Undersea telegraph cables, meanwhile, were strictly reserved for urgent matters, billed by the word and prohibitively expensive.
- The Pace of the Post: For loved ones left on shore, a letter sent to New York took at least six days to cross, and just as long for a reply to return. Getting news took two to three weeks at best.
- Bourgeois Restraint: Within the French bourgeoisie of the 1920s, emotion was expressed with strict decorum. In front of the crowds on the pier, tears and theatrical outbursts were shunned; one maintained a polished composure, veiling the anxiety of parting behind practical advice and polite, stiff-upper-lip smiles.
































